Why do we Settle?
Why is it easy to settle in situations, rather it's our job, love, or life? Is it because it is easier to just take what is given to us? Or is it because, at times we go through a "waiting period" before we finally get what we want? Have we succumb to this "microwave generation", where we want everything fast within 30 seconds, that we miss out on what we really wholeheartedly want?
I found myself in situations where I knew it wasn't serving me well.I stayed because I was paralyzed with fear thinking maybe this is what I deserved. I remember thinking there was nothing out there better for me. Deep down I knew i wanted more and deserved more. I realized talking and thinking in fear was a reflection of me not knowing who I was. We must get out of our comfort zone and truly be honest with ourselves. Ask yourself this question: What is it that I truly want? The career of your dreams, the love you desire, the life you so desperately want all those things and more start with you! Stop being complacent with where you are. Get up and do something different. Nothing in life comes easy, but you deserve better.
Being complacent will have you in stale relationships you know you should have left years maybe months ago, yet here we are, going through the motions. Social media and the persona of a relationship will have you thinking
it's ok to be miserable with a body than happy and alone.
With a complacent mindset you will always find yourself in "situationship" once the feelings fade. We have to do better! As much thought as it take you to choose a picture for IG or the outfit of the day, we should keep that same energy for those we choose to share our space with. Don't settle for a relationship that won't let you be yourself( <--- A topic for another day), settling will always leave the heart relentlessly unsettled.
What you want exist, don't settle until you get. Five even ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn't settle for it. PLEASE DON'T SETTLE. Not in a job you hate, not in a city where you don't feel like home, not with friendships that aren't real, and especially, especially not with love.